What do you do if you want an exclusive relationship but they don’t want to give it to you? Many women feel that their only choice is to keep going until they succeed. This isn’t necessarily the best option.
The passing of time and the good times you share together do not guarantee that they will continue to be your exclusive partner at some point. You are not compatible in a big way if exclusivity is essential to you but not to them. Right now, you’re not looking for the same kind of relationship, and you may never be.
So, if you want an exclusive relationship and they don’t, what do you do? First, have a conversation with them (not just your friends) and ask them why you aren’t exclusive, then listen to their answer. If they claim they aren’t looking for an exclusive relationship right now, inquire as to whether they believe they will be in the future. If they give you a vague response like “maybe someday,” you’ll have to make a decision right then and there.
You must acknowledge the fact that this individual has expressed their feelings and desires to you. You have the option of believing their word or believing in your own fantasy. It is up to you to make the decision and take responsibility for the result. If they never have an intimate relationship with you, don’t blame them; blame yourself for taking such a big chance.
Accept their response if they say they don’t want to be exclusive because it’s too soon after their previous relationship ended. You should inquire as to how long they believe they would have to wait. They don’t have to give you an exact date, but they can give you a general idea.
The important thing to note is that you do not treat others as though you are in an intimate relationship with them. You could not devote any of your spare time to them. You should not be available to them at all times, whether in person or over the internet. You may believe that doing so can secure you an exclusive relationship or prevent them from seeing other people, but it may backfire disastrously.
Why should they be exclusive with you if they are already getting 100 percent from you? What do you stand to gain? They don’t have to do something, and they get to keep their options open. So, once you’ve made a commitment to someone, don’t let them take up all of your time. Instead of giving them everything you have, give them everything they want.
Believe them if they say they would never want to be in an intimate relationship. Then decide if you’re willing to sacrifice your needs and desires for someone who can only give you so little.