Several relationship misconceptions may lead to people having false expectations about partnerships. These may also contribute to false aspirations. To help clear up the doubt, we’ve compiled a rundown of all of the more common relationship theories.
- Everybody would be able to settle down until they are ready to find the right individual at any stage in their lives. This is untrue. Not all can, though. It is not just a case of waiting for anyone to leave before they do. Any people would never be able to calm down.
- Cohabitation tends to marriage. That was more popular in the past, but what about now? No, it does not. Living together does not imply that the friendship would eventually proceed to marriage. Particularly if you and your partner moved in together much too soon.
- Fights or disagreements are not acceptable in a stable partnership. That is incorrect. There’s nothing wrong with a friendly debate or a difference of thought or belief from time to time. Great partners don’t have to compromise on anything and hold the same values. What matters is how fights or conflicts are done. It is healthy that they can be debated as adults without problems worsening. If minor differences result in yelling and acting out, there is a larger issue at hand. What is also critical is whether or not the disputes or conflicts are settled. Experiencing the same problems over and over again with little resolution is a symptom of instability.
- It is often better to share the emotions as soon as they arise. This is not necessarily the case. Any topics are best kept unsaid before the moment is right to express yourself. All have their timing and location. Choosing the best time and place to share your feelings with your loved one will result in a more positive response.
- All challenges are solvable. Sorry, but this is just a myth. Not all friendship issues may be resolved. Often one party (or both) is unable to alter or compromise and may never be. Furthermore, the pair can be compatible in virtually any way but one that is critical to the partnership.
- Love triumphs above everything. Unfortunately, this is just a lie. Love also brings out the best of us, and sometimes it brings out the worst. If love brings out the worst in a pair (or just one partner), the partnership can become more toxic.
- The pair does it together in the strongest partnerships. This is just another myth. Yes, some amazing couples with amazing marriages do it together. However, certain wonderful couples with fantastic marriages do not do anything together. People are not always alike, and what works for one couple will not work for another.
- If you’re having relationship issues, it’s an indication you’re not supposed to be together. This fairy tale is based on a large story. I’m sure there are several couples out there who have never had a crisis, but there are several more who do. What matters is how you deal with difficulties and setbacks as a community (and as individuals). So, don’t presume that only because the engagement has reached a snag is a sure indication that it’s time to call it quits.
- Excellent sex equals an excellent friendship. Great sex, after all, equals a great sexual partnership. If you want to keep a fantastic relationship going, you need more than just great sex. Great sex can not hold a pair together if they are not on the same wavelength and are not comfortable outside of the bedroom. Also, fantastic sex does not often contribute to a friendship.
- If I wait long enough, change will arrive. That is incorrect. The change will only be brought on by hard work. If you’re hoping for somebody to make a difference and don’t see much commitment, it’s time to give up. Go on because it’s unlikely they’ll make the improvements you want them to.
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