What is life without the chaos of love? There is nothing that can make you feel miserable and blessed at the same time. It is one of those concepts that humans are still figuring out. However, being in love and being in a relationship are two very different things. The latter has a sense of responsibility attached to it. It takes effort and time to build a relationship. So here are a few tips for anybody who is looking for ways to keep your love fresh and the relationship exciting.
How to keep things interesting?
Falling in love is easy. But staying for the long haul is tough. It takes a certain kind of tenacity to remain. Unlike movies, not everything falls into place when love remains. Sometimes, being in love is always not enough. There are other factors that are equally important that you need to take care of. Otherwise, the relationship might come off as stagnant and can feel draining. In other words, do not let your relationship feel like a chore. So, here are a few tips that you can follow:
You and your partner have been together for a while now. Things feel great, and you do enjoy each other’s company. However, there is still a lingering feeling of monotony that gnaws at the back of your head. Maybe, you should consider opening yourself to newer experiences. Being conservative and keeping yourself closed to newer experiences can certainly feel safe. However, it can grow old pretty fast. Listen if your partner is suggesting you new ideas and things for you to experience in and outside of the bedroom as a couple. Otherwise, the feeling of monotony would grow, and before you know it, the weight of the idea becomes overwhelming.
Sometimes, it is not enough for a person to hear the words “I love you,” sometimes you need to do more. In other words, do not be afraid to show your love via your action. Be excited to meet your partner, listen to what he or she is saying, take time out of your schedule for your partner, and most importantly, be spontaneous. These small things might seem childish, but remember that love thrives on emotions and not logic. Remember why you guys fell in love and consider recreating that magic with equal intensity. This would go a long way.
A word that features most in long distance relationship quotes but is true for all forms of relationship. Like life, things would get rocky from time to time with your partner. However, these are the times when you need to be extra calm and keep an open line of communication. This means you need to be open and receptive to any feedback that your partner is giving. This can certainly, at times, not feel nice. But, instead of counterattacking or finding excuses to change the topic, you need to engage in difficult conversations. This would help you to deal with a lot of issues while they are fixable. And believe us, when the time of fixing things passes, things rarely stay the same. So before things turn sour, communicate.
Being generous does not always apply to the act of giving. It also means to receive what was given to you. Be accommodating of things that your partner is giving you. Show appreciation, even when you are running on low emotional bandwidth. Also, one point that you need to remember is that a relationship is not a game of settling scores. Just cause you have been gifted something expensive does not mean that you should also receive something equally extravagant. Therefore, stop keeping track.
Keep your identity intact.
One of the foremost things that you need to do is to keep your identity intact. Losing yourself in love is an amazing concept, probably. However, there are real consequences that you will have to face if you go down the road. Nowadays, couples go down the road of fusing their respective identity in the name of love. This can make conflicts more demeaning and hurtful. Since you have lost your sense of self in the relationship, it becomes easy for the other person to attack you. However, this does not mean that they are bad. But if you do not set boundaries, then it is inevitable that the other person might strike a nerve. Setting boundaries would give the relationship optimum breathing space and make things easier for everyone.
There you go, tips for you to keep your relationship healthy and thriving. However, we still believe that love has no blueprint. There is no cheat sheet for you to follow. So instead of reading a random article on the internet about love, we suggest that you have an actual heartfelt conversation with your partner. That would fix everything.