How much evidence do you need when it comes to the one you adore? Why can too many people want to deny the facts regarding the individual they love? The reality regarding the one you love is based on evidence rather than emotions.
Your emotions are what enable the ones you love to get away with anything they are doing or doing. Your imaginative narrative of them mostly lacks the evidence to explain either not breaking the partnership or not altering it. There’s no reason to conceal the proof. The main explanation you chose to keep things hidden is because you don’t want other people to realize the reality of your friendship and how horrible it is.
Isn’t it evidence enough that there’s something wrong going on? I’m not suggesting you have to terminate the friendship right now (although some of you should). I’m suggesting you have to face the reality about your friendship and the one you love. You’ve been making excuses for your friendship, and it’s obvious that it’s not effective, so it’s time to make a shift.
No one should have to cheat on you several occasions and over a long period for you to recognize it and tolerate the reality that they are a cheater. Quit hoping they’ll stop stealing every day just because you hung in there all this time. Where is the evidence that this would occur? There is no such location. But there is evidence that they May NOT. The biggest predictor of potential actions is past action. If you need further proof?
Have your excuses resulted in the improvements you expected to see? No, it does not. Not. When you are there, you have evidence that the man or woman in your life treats you like shit. You’ve seen it, learned it, and thought like a jerk for it. Facts are simply facts. But your “heart” for this guy, rather than evidence, leads you to believe that one day they will see the error of their ways and transform into a walking Hallmark card? Is this a Lifetime Television for Women movie script? The reality is that the guy you care for is not a good person. Do you want proof? Nice people don’t handle you like scum. Only a thought.
But, how much evidence do you need to start coping with your partnership realistically? Haven’t you had enough of being depressed, irritated, furious, and self-conscious? Do you have to keep putting the hypothesis that stuff would get easier if you just stick it out to the test? The last thing you end up achieving by trying that hypothesis is finding it wrong.